March 31, 20241 year ago today I got the call. The call that changed the trajectory of mine and my families life. A breast cancer diagnosis. And now, my life will never be the same again. It has been such a hard year. One of my very worst. From mammogram to biopsy to diagnosis. Then on to the treatments: 2 breast surgeries, chemo, radiation, another surgery to remove my ovaries and now a hormone chemo pill I have to take for 5 years. My body is broken and bruised. I feel fat and ugly. Mentally, I am struggling daily. From loneliness to anxiety to depression. Some days are harder than others and I find myself losing the mental battle most days, unfortunately. I am exhausted all the time, mentally and physically. I know that I should feel blessed and thankful. But some days it's just so hard.
One big thing I have learned through the process is there is only one you can truly lean on and trust and that is Jesus. People mean well. They tell you things. They might say that they love you and will be there for you. They might even think they mean those things. But after many months with not so much as a text message or phone call, it's really hard to believe that. I have felt more alone on this journey than ever before. (Of course, there are those that have been there for me, like my brother and sister who were there when I needed them. They sacrificed time and money to come visit me and be there for me. But unfortunately, they are not local so there is only so much they can do) Overall, people will disappoint and hurt you, whether they mean to or not. The only one you can count on is Jesus.
Throughout this year, I have wondered constantly about my mom and how she must have felt during her battle with cancer. I wish I was there for her more then. I wish daily that I could talk to her. I have so many questions. I also have so much more I can relate to her about now. And I would love to apologize for not being there for her more during her last years here with us. I was young and dumb and selfish and I know that now.
Faithfully by TobyMac
It's been a long year, it almost took me down, I swear
Life was so good
I'm not so sure we knew what we had
I'll never be the same man
I'll never feel like I felt before (felt before)
It's been a hard year, it almost took me down
But when my world broke into pieces
You were there faithfully
When I cried out to You, Jesus
You made a way for me
I may never be the same man
But I'm a man who still believes
When I cried out to You, Jesus
You were there faithfully
I've had a hard time
Findin' the blue in the skies above me
And if I'm keepin' it real
I've been half-faking the happy they see
I may look like the same man
But I'm half the man I was (half the man I was)
It's been a hard year, it almost took me down
But when my world broke into pieces
You were there faithfully
When I cried out to You, Jesus
You made a way for me
I may never be the same man
But I'm a man who still believes
When I cried out to You, Jesus
You were there faithfully
In my darkest hour, You met me
So quietly, so gently
You said You'd never leave
And You stood by Your word
So quietly, so gently
In all my pain, You met me
You said You'd never leave
And You stood by Your word
'Cause when my world broke into pieces
You were there faithfully
When I cried out to You, Jesus
You made a way for me
I may never be the same man
But I'm a man who still believes
When I cried out to You, Jesus
You were there faithfully